Bisexual Girlfriend
According to Dan Savage; most bisexuals are incapable of falling in love with their same sex. They are only capable from deriving sexual pleasure from them.
Now, forgive my gross generalizations, but without them this is too complicated.
In a million years you will never find a Lesbian that will let her Bisexual girlfriend sleep with guys, but you will find plenty of guys who will let their bisexual girlfriends sleep with Lesbians.
Why?
To Lesbians, Guys are a threat and fully unattractive; but to Guys Lesbians are hot. No wonder it appears that the bisexual girlfriends will ALWAYS end up with a Guy. If they don't sleep with Guys because their partners won't let them, they're just Lesbians to the world. But if they're Bisexual with a Guy, then they're automatically 'ending up' with a Guy- whether or not they still sleep with women. They 'end up' with a guy because maybe that guy is a little more accepting of who they are? and maybe the bisexuals who end up with women (therefore making them just lesbians) hide that part of themselves so that they don't lose the person they love, who doesn't accept them for who they are. It's a matter of acceptance and self-control- and maybe that's why is seems like a sex thing, but it isn't.
Maybe the problem is in the system and not in the bisexual girlfriend to begin with?
Just a thought... maybe we should stop picking on the bisexuals?
******disclaimers: I'm fully aware that there are plenty of GGG Lesbians out there who will allow their girlfriends to sleep with whoever they want and plenty of men who do not want their girlfriends messing around with other women. I'm also aware that this isn't even an issue for some couples because not every bisexual has to be sleeping with someone of the sex opposite to their partner all the time. Also, I love Dan Savage and I respect his opinions even though I don't always agree with them.*****
posted by Jamie @ 1:02 PM
2 Comments:
i just want to say i dont see guys as a threat or as fully unattractive. do i want to date one? no.
but here's my question, if youre in a relationship and feel the need to sleep with the opposite of the gender you are with then does that give your bf or gf the option to do the same, same sex or otherwise?
and finally, when you talk about bisexuals, why does everyone automatically think only of women? Where are the guys?
I talk about women because I am one. I can't speak to how a bisexual man feels, nor do I have experience as one. I do, however, know that bisexual men exist.
And that would depend on the relationship- if it was ME in this situation and I wanted to sleep with men- which I dont, I would absolutely let my girlfriend sleep with whoever she wanted.
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