When arrows don't penetrate,Cupid gets a pistol.

February 14th. My very good friend Tekoa and I have been talking about this a lot lately, mainly because she's the only one who will give my opinion any weight on the subject. I'm in a great relationship with a wonderful person- and this blog doesn't apply to us at all. I wouldn't have it any other way. I know, single people out there are probably going to be outraged because I have somebody. It's already been mentioned to me that I have no right to complain- but I'm going to anyway. You see, I really can be against something on principle and not just out of anger. I mean no disrespect to St. Valentine and I'm sure that everyone always blogs about the same thing, but I feel the need to bitch about the ridiculousness.
I am not against the idea of giving your girlfriend/boyfriend presents. I am not against holding hands and going out to dinner, I am not against flower deliveries, jewelry or treating your partner like they're more precious than gold. What I am against is this- only doing it one day of the year. "Hello Sweetheart, Let's love each other today the way we should be loving each other everyday!" It's ridiculous. I'm never going to be with someone because we have good, loving Valentine's Days . I'm never going to be with someone because we have good, loving Saturdays. It has to be good all the time- even when it's bad. Make sense?

Now, courtesy of Tekoa and I, here's why Christmas and Valentine's day are alike.
Church. Women and Men everywhere must understand what a church goes through around the holidays. Just because the date says Feb14 or Dec25 doesn't mean you can rush out, spend some time where you usually don't go and expect the best. Churches and Partners are the same. If you're not doing it anyway, you shouldn't be doing it on holidays. Chances are your church and partner notice.
Shopping. Dear God, give me any two other holidays where people can go out in public, act like complete fucking morons, treat every person they encounter like crap and then roll on home and act like they are God's gift to their families and partners. Give me a break. A bouquet of flowers, box of chocolates or diamond bracelet will not make up for what a shitty person you obviously have hiding underneath that polished exterior. Unless you work in retail, you do it too. The "Hurry! I'm late! It's Valentine's Day and I'm late!" or "It's Christmas, I don't have time for this." Hi, It's valentine's day and I'm working. Hi,It's Christmas and I'm still working. So shut up and plan ahead next year. Or, better yet- buy someone something when it isn't mandated by Hallmark and Russell Stover. This is what we like to call thinking out side the (candy)box.
Holier Than Thou Attitidues. This one is going to get me into trouble and it might be a little hard to follow, but seriously. (Let me disclaim and say that this does not apply to everyone, but I have known a few in my day.) People who are only nice to their partners on Valentine's day are like people who won't work on Sundays because of religious reasons....And because it's their night to get drunk. Of course they tell you this after bad mouthing everyone at school/work/home and then turn down covering a shift for someone who has a funeral or surgery or something. "I'm sorry. I can't help you out in your time of need, Jesus says so."

So, as a general rule, please stop using Valentine's Day as make up for the love&decency exam you've been failing everyday of the year, and stop using God as a get out of jail (and work) free card. Because before you know it, Jesus, God and St. Valentine are going to come a-knocking; and if I were you, I wouldn't want to be home.